A diaper lover is different from an AB because they are fundamentally focused around the wearing of a Diaper or Nappy, for them it is all about the feelings of the diaper, and usually about its intended use. DLs tend to be more sexually motivated then ABies and usually integrate Diaper Play into their general sex life - like prelonged bondage or watersports.

Thats an important question.. that only you can answer, the real answer is ... It doesnt matter. Most people will associate with at least a little of both of the classifications. Being either one way or the other completely isn't unusual but most people who play as ABies enjoy wearing and using their diapers and some DLs, sneak a quick suck on a dummy from time to time as well... its horses for courses, be happy with who you are... is the best advice I can give.

No..there are much much worse desires you can have. You are not hurting anyone, and you are not forcing your desires on anyone else. Imagine all the people who cause pain on themselves or others for sexual kicks, or are into rape or enjoy scat play.. or or... all sexuality verges into the darker side of humanity.. IMHO Infantalism is the least harmful of any of them

Yes Infantilism is a well documented psychological fetish and has been studied from time to time by various psychologists, but Id have to say it is probably the least understood and each of the studies has a differing opinion

Oh God no far from it. Adult Baby play tends not to be sexually based directly as it there is no direct stimulation of the genitals of the AB but some find it mentally arousing which means that it is a form of sexual expression. and heres where the difference is.. A paedophile sexualises the child, the child is the sexual object, for an AB the carer.. usually the mother.. is a sexualised, The attraction is to the mother figure and the power she holds over you rather than the child. It is a power exchange situation like a Master & Slave or Domme & submissive. The thrill comes from being forced into regressing or being made to take up a social status lower than you would normally have. And the release from the pressures that that normally holds over you in your day to day life. A paedophile is attracted to the child and wants to exploit that relationship for his own gains. They are the destroyers of innocence whereas an AB seeks to regain - recapture and hold on to the innocence of a child. Fortunatly almost all people in authority with any experience can clearly see the difference and will leave the AB community alone. The AB community is very actively against paedophiles and will not hesitate to report anyone who is feared to be preditory to the appropriate authorities without hesitation. Site owners like myself are especially on the look out and have no qualms in pointing these people out for the appropriate authority to

Now thats the hardest question to answer in the world. Everyones relationship is completely different and only you know your partner and there limits to sexual experimentation. My overall advice is to introduce the idea of ageplay into your regular sex life and then slowly, slowly, move the goal further and further introducing more and more babyish elements. The real issue here is to respect your partners limits and back off if you think that you may be forcing it the wrong way. Never just tell them out cold.. it will throw them completely. And try not to be "accidentally discovered" otherwise they will think you are ashamed of your desires and it will become a shameful thing to them as well. Some relationships will break under these circumstances as the partner feels that they have been lied to all this time and that you wouldnt / couldnt share your desires with them. In other ways, some women will instantly loose all interest in a male partner after they have revealed this desire in themselves as the image of the big strong male can be destroyed. SO BE CAREFUL and APPROACH WITH CAUTION and always be completely open with your partner the sooner the better.

As a rule a Sissy is used as a term to define a man who crossdresses as a younger woman / child rather than the traditional crossdresser. Mostly they are into the humiliation side of being forced to dress as a woman and that is what seperates them from traditional crossdressers, as they see themselves as liberating a hidden side of themselves and see it as empowering rather than a humiliating event. As with most things in life... thats not always the case.

An LG is a rather new term it definaes a Little Girl. And can be used in a couple of different ways. Some crossdressers who arent into the humiliation side of Sissydom perfer the term LG as they truely feel like a Little Girl ( sort of a double fetish of Crossdressing and Ageplay ) With women who use the term its used more to refer to those who prefer Ageplay but dont see themselves as babies.. they tend to play as young girls, school girls and Daddys Girls. These are much much more common than true ABies.

You are not alone, this is more common than you think, it is well hidden thats all. Its just not discussed in public and if it does surface then the lack of understanding is shown and they respond with derision rather than actually taking the time to think about what is happening. If they did think it through most sane sensible people would think it was odd certainly quirky but overall mostly harmless.

An Adult Baby is a grown up male or female who enjoys spending time mentally regressing to a younger baby or child-like state, they prefer the freedom of resposibilities that this time offers them, it is a form of escapism and relief. They like to express their emotions in play and forget about grown up issues. This is often characterised by, but not exclusively, props to help them achieve that mental state, usually the wearing of babyish attire, predominantly a nappy or diaper (either cloth or disposible ) and sometime suckling on a dummy, drinking from a bottle and playing with toys of a particular era that means something to them etc. They like giving over responsibility to either a dominant of the opposite sex who takes a paternal or maternal role as the care giver.

Well… tricky.. Official answer = if you’re under age… you should leave us adults to the darkness - go away. 

But the real answer is… These old draconian laws just cant stand up in this new technological age. I mean… you’re not supposed to be here.. but here you are.. and nothing can realistically keep underage people, like yourself, away without seriously hampering the freedoms and rights of the adults who should rightfully be. 

More so.. the reason that I think the status-quo has been allowed NOT to change is that I think its important the younger fetishist learns from and is educated by the experiences ( both good and bad ) of the older members of the community so that they can make informed and educated decisions when their time comes. So when they find a play partner who they can legally explore these avenues of creative self expression with, in the comfort of their own homes, they can do so safely and with fore-knowledge.

I would strongly advise all underage people to wait, to grow and develop, to keep a balance on life and to be smart.

But.. once again… if you’re under age… you should leave us adults to the darkness - go away. 

Just dont go too far away and well see you back here with open arms once your all legalfied in a few months or years.

Hi there little one

Dont worry, Im sure - all -  of the little ones ( both male and female ) who read this blog will agree with me when I say that what your feeling is perfectly normal. Most little ones have enough self awareness to question these desires and say “what am I doing and - more importantly - why am I doing this?” Everyone’s reasons are different  no pattern matches everyone.

In general though its fair to say that regression, or the need to regress, or to engage in regressive play with a partner, (sexually or otherwise) is a way of dealing with stress. Its about giving someone responsibility for a while and having some other higher , in this case, parental figure take the load and to just let go and to be cared for for a while. Its a form of submission in the form of carefree play and being understood and cared for that means losing for a short while lifes responsibilities.

As for why now? The late teens is a really tough time, People around you are expecting you to be completly grown up, to make tough adult decisions in guiding your own life, to interact completely independantly in this grown up world and clearly those things are forced upon us by the paths that life takes at that age. For some, its simply too early, and so they feel they arent ready and they have a stronger need to reconnect with a simpler time when someone always had your back and none of the financial stresses of rent, bills, taxes and the increased social pressures you face in finding a new set of friends and leaving your old ones behind as everyone moves away.

And please, please please, REALLY dont worry about the “genuineness” of your desires and feelings if it comes and goes. That reflects the daily rise and fall of the things that are causing you stress. So.. it could well be a phase, our likes and dislikes change as we grow as our life changes around us, thats perfectly normal.. it doesnt make it wrong, its just what we need right now. I have known and played and loved many little girls over the years who stop feeling the need to be little and move on when their life moves on - I still count them all as true friends and even though I will never play with them again I am still part of their lives in a more grown up capacity.

As for how it will affect your future, it will affect it as much as you allow it. This ageplay should only be a small part of you and your life, balance is crucial, balance is healthy. Dont allow the fetish to become too much, too important, keep your life goals healthy and fresh and then you need not fear your desires.

I hope that helps.

Drop a clear post in many sections of AB messagebaords like mine. State exactly what you are searching for and stick to it, many people will approach you and many wont be upto speed.. dont be off put - as they say in Disney .. someday your Prince will come. The easiest way to find a daddy is to be involved on a site, most guys want a genuinely active little girl that way they can see that you are interested and not dreaming, so make sure you are posting on messageboards, appearing in chatrooms and have multiple copies of your profile on different sites all saying the same thing etc. This will speed it up no end.

Dont give out pictures of yourself to people unless you are prepared to run the risk of finding them online in the future. Some AB Boys kind of collect images of "real AB girls" and then in a fit of unthinkingness will just post them onto a picture gallery ( like mine ) I have had a few girls approach me to remove pictures and I always immediatly do so - no questions asked. Most of the time the guy wont see the harm and the lady will feel an tremendous sense of betrayal. So be smart with any pictures you send out.. also dont send any pictures which include other people, so no shots of you with your friends in your local bar etc.. you get the idea.

It can be a little daunting at first but the search for a potential Daddy is a very enriching experience that I whole heartedly recommend you throw yourself into. The key word in this is TRUST it is the biggest single factor in your choices and descisions that you will have to make, It is important that you do not rush any descisions Daddy and Little girl relationships are long term affairs, the trust that you must have in your partner to allow them to guide you as you want to be guided takes time.. a long time to build up. So you must talk to quite a few Daddies to try to weed out those who dont fit into your profile of what you are seeking. There are a million and one wannabe Daddies out there.. every AB boy dreams of being a daddy, but dreaming it and actually being able to become a daddy with responsibility over a AB girl is a entirely different matter. Now you, as an young AB girl, have a distinct edge, AB girls who are searching are quite rare, as a sucessful match to a daddy means a long term relationship and a very close and unbreakable bond between the couple. You will be genuinely overwhelmed by potential suitors if you spend more then 5 or 10 minutes in a chatroom. my best advice to you is to be clear in your own mind about the sort of Daddy you are searching for. Dont narrow it down too much and wait forever for the "perfect" Daddy but having standards is important. In the end this is dating just like normal every day relationship seeking and you must treat it that way, unless you are looking for an occasional play partner in which you may be less choosy ( nothing wrong with that in itself )

Its hard, but just like normal dating your going to find far more Mr Wrongs than Mr Rights.

That “creeping out” that your feeling, is your gut instinct, its really important so NEVER ignore it. What you have to be able to do is look inward and be able to verbalise to yourself first.. why.. you felt that way. 

In my experience, the most common cause for the creeped feeling is that with some men, its the sense of pure desperation and the massive overbearing rush of elation they get at finding someone to share this with, it makes them act in weird ways, say weird things, in general it just makes them try too hard. All girls can sense this a mile away and they “creep out” and head for the hills.

So look inward for a while, try to take stock of what it is your feeling and then, be honest and tell him that reason why ( gently worded of course) If hes doing something wrong then maybe he can learn from what your telling him, and you will both grow from the experience. If he doesn’t want to listen and learn then he is a lost cause and a bad and dangerous potential daddy so you are best to leave him be and continue on your search.

Just be true to yourself, not of what you think others expect from you being little. Every little, both male and female are unique and enjoy play differently. The spectrum of play is wide and personal . Dont ever think, or worse be made to think “am I doing this wrong?” because you just cant do it wrong.. only wrong for you. 

If it makes you happy then it is good for you.

The most important point though is to keep balance, keeping yourself centralised so that your play fills in a gap in your life will keep your head in the right place. Your big life and little life should match and balance in a proportion that’s right for you and not cause conflict with either yourself, your life and others. 

The simple answer….

Those are the pictures I repost - because those are the pictures I find. 

Its the photographers who choose their subjects not me. As an observer all I have to select from is what Im presented with.

its a simple answer…. BUT with a far more complicated cause.

This situation as you can tell Is not one I’ve personally created..  its just one we are ALL caught in. I’ve very rarely come across a little girls blog or website where the girl who isn’t an ideal shape has the confidence to show herself to the world. They do, as I do, and represent themselves with the idealised photos as a visual short hand to express how they are feeling. 

As a Daddy of 5 real AB girls, I know all too well that little girls come in different beautiful packages, my princesses are all shapes and sizes - tall, short, slim, overweight. But… because the little ones who aren’t that idealised shape don’t like to be photographed, they feel rightly and sometimes know from past experience that would be judged negatively by those same standards by a viewer.. so they dont allow themselves to be photographed, to put themselves in that firing line and risk the pain of rejection.

Its a destructive cycle really. A change is stopped from happening through that fear. Only models, confident about their looks, allow themselves to be photographed and distributed which makes the real girls even more afraid to appear to be judged.. so the photographers HAVE to use more models. “Amateur” sites cry out for “real” girls for photo shoots - yet the girls just don’t step forward for the reasons we discussed. The irony is that us guys arent as shallow as you fear, they crave real shots of real girls who really wear and enjoy themselves instead of these faked model shots where the girl has ZERO interest in what shes doing - ( Diapered for cash is a big turn off for me personally). Amature / real content sells.. because it is so rare. 

It is a shame.. but all it needs is more realistically proportioned girls to step forward and take the chance. Most of my pictures are not about that though, I like to mix it up with cartoons, film stills, drawings or fashion shoots as well as the pictures of the girls which appeal to me. I like to post as much real stuff as I can find.

In all probability not. I mean she will sell dozens of packs of Adult disposibles a week.. and 99% of them will be to incontinent people. So she will think nothing of it. She in most cases wont have ever heard of an Adult baby.. and even if she did.. she wouldnt give a damn.. so you`re cool. I mean to put it in perspective.. do you think a shoe shop owner suspects everyone who buys a pair of shoes as being a shoe fetishist.. you can bet not

Well thats half the fun isnt it lol.. but seriously, recent statistics say that approx 1 in 20 or 4.78% or 13 million people in USA suffer from urinary incontinence in the UK that figures closer to 2 million or 1 in 30.. yup.. for every 30 people who walked past you yesterday.. 1 of them might have been wearing.... Did you spot them? Nope? Then I doubt they will spot you.. unless you make it really obvious

Not necessasrily, infact most people who are cared for by members of the same sex from time to time arent remotely phyisically attracted to their carer, being an AB can be a non-sexual affair and giving control over yourself to another man, just means that - Control - It is the idea of control that you are playing with, your daddy may not touch you sexually in any way whilst you play. Although i have to admit that for guys the whole play thing tends to be edged more towards the physical aspect anyway. And heres another point.. even if you did get aroused whilst your being looked after by a man, thats no big issue, enjoy your own sexuality you dont have to fight against it and suffer guilt.. 10-1 is that no-one else knows you wear nappies right? So whats the difference.. no one will know you enjoy being controlled by a man either, so just learn to enjoy the feeling theres no shame in it.

This question caught me out at first. I couldnt figure out where the asker was coming from but then I think I saw a new pampers advert for real nappies for toddler and it clicked. The answer in Ab terms is no. This "boys" and "girls" nappy is just a new fangled advertising gimmick to sell more nappies to real mums, they make them pay more money for the same thing.. I mean sure the different sexes obviously wet more heavily in different areas. But what Ive always done is im sure what generations of parents have done and is to place extra padding in the form of inserts, loading them more to the front for male and towards the centre and back for the girls. The only difference in buying Adult nappies from a AB supplier would come down probably to colour or pattern on them or the pants that contain them.

Its the oldest self fufilling prophecy in the book.. its attiudes like that which keep them hidden.. and yes, a percentage of females online are sad guys who get off on manipulating unsupecting straight men either for their own sexual kicks or to wind them up as a laugh ... or .. that they truely feel that they are female and will express this part of themselves online. It is a sad fact that most of the female ABies will run from most of the men online - they can smell the desperation a mile away. My best advice to anyone is to just stop trying - and let the ladies come to you. Once a girl gets to know you, she will feel safe in coming forward to talk to you. Trust is the biggest part of this.. and that is earned not demanded. Just saying "Hi Im a daddy wanna nappy change?" will get you nothing but contempt as a rule. The girls will tell each other your a loser and all avoid you. But then again thats not always true, many girls sometimes like the intimate thrill of a online sexual encounter.. but thats the key word.. SOME. Never assume ANYTHING

There are quite a few on the market. I review a few of them in my review section. BabyDoll, Wetset, Adult Baby Source, Bytemine, GUWI all produce AB films, and they all are available from their respective producers websites. The chances of coming across them in your local Adult shop are remote.. but not impossible. In the USA its next to impossible mainland europe its much more likely as specialist Niche fetish shops are realtively common and in the UK they are rare but I have found them to buy over the counter at many SM / CP and general fetish retailers.. usually in the bargain bin ;) Try the Fetish fairs of London Sheffield and Birmingham aswell, sometimes youll get lucky.

Good question.. if your a guy best thing to do is send a picture to the producers of the videos.. but don't hold your breath.. Male ABies dont sell videos. But you never know... Its not impossible. :) If you are a girl thats a different matter, real AB girls who are prepared to make films are like gold dust and as long as you are genuine and relatively good looking then you will be snapped up by almost all of the producers.. so go girls!! get in there. just send a recent picture and a short covering letter to the producers of the films and tell them what you would and wouldnt do and Im sure you will be famous in no time at all - Just tell them Care4baby sent you ;) In this latest version of the site Ive added a section in the classified adverts where you can pin your name to the wall, all the manufacturers of AB films come her regularly.. so you never know.

Yes - there are actually quite a few, ranging from homemade hobby ones upto full blown glossy monthly magazines. The biggest one is Baby-Doll which is published in Germany. It is Bi-Lingual German/English and available worldwide from their website http://www.baby-doll.com before that magazine they publish Babylon in the late 90`s. Another regualar AB magazine is from Australia called WetSet - that is a Watersports & AB/DL magazine as time has gone on its emphasis has shifted more towards the AB side it is published almost monthly. From the Uk there is the long running Bonnets & Bibs which is low print quality, text based AB material but has some great articles and is very switched on towards the AB market. Other porn companies from time to time try their hand with one-off magaines, like Sweet Mary Jane, but these tend to be pretty similar and porn magazines in disguise and they usually carry a hefty price tag because they are printed in low runs. The Sissy market is another matter completly with many many magazines available from lots of places like Sissy on Parade, True Transvestite World, Hardcore She-Male, The World of Dominated Transvestites, etc etc

Yup.. but where to sell them huh? Drop them on Ebay and youll be kicked off in a heartbeat... So what do you do if you have a collection you want to shift.. Well why not drop an advert on the classified section of this site .. totally free of course. I guarantee youll have sold them within days

Yes in both Japan and Germany I have come across them, there have been a couple through the years in the UK although the most recent one was a showroom in Darwen ( 30 miles outside Manchester ) which has now sadly closed. They tend to have all the clothes, plastic pants, nappies, disposibles, mittens, bonnets and bibs you'd expect. As well as selling AB media and magazines. You get a chance to try before you buy and if your there long enough will meet other ABies who drop by and have a chat. If you get a chance to ever visit one these places are amazingly liberating and you will see that other ABies are real, like you.. and yes, couples are involved.. and yes, there REAL AB girls. So if you find out about any in your local vicinity then support them and spread the word and tell as many people as possible about them, becuase I know that people will travel hundreds of miles soley to get the chance to visit one of these places and pamper themselves.

There are literally hundreds of places to either buy the terry cloth from and stitch into your own sized nappes. Which I feel is the best approach or you can buy pre-made squares from AB Dealers.. check out my weblinks in the menu... or just put nappies / diapers into the search box of Ebay. You are guaranteed a result... Or if you fancy challange you can buy BIG rolls of terry towelling and cut yourself a few squares to trim up your own in your exact size. Dont forget to hem up the edges.

Well thats up to the AB in question, Ive found that the ABies preference very much depends on their age, for older Abies its got to be cloth as they were brought up in them and them alone, yet the younger Abies never wore terry cloth nappies so the feeling to them is unfamiliar and they are more reassured by disposibles. As a Daddy I like both.. my rule of thumb is Cloth to play in and Disposibles to use. I like the idea of Cloth nappies, the bulk between the legs gets the AB waddling like the little princess she is.. but I hate washing and dont want terry toweling squares all over the radiators of my house or out on the washing lines.. so when my little girl is put to bed at night or when she wants to wet I put her in disposibles.

Again this is subjective.. and depends on the AB, the best thing is to find what age your little one likes to be, the older they play the more likely they will want to wear pullups. I prefer nappies, the whole powder, cream and tape routine is what I adore... but my little girl has different ideas and shes a pullup gal. One advantage of pullups is that its easy to change them in public.. which is great fun

Well thats subjective. Most people have there favs, some rate ones that look babyish as the top priority, for some, the ability to hold multiple wettings is key. Some only want pure white nappies and nothing more. Also various countries have different brands and most ABies like to collect a selection of different brands... like collecting shoes, some people even collect older, rarer, not in production ones. Each to their own

if your little one is significantly small enough.. and its not impossible, Ive seen some girls who can just about slip into the largest sized toddler nappies that can be bought from a Supermarket.. it is rare though. Most people will need the specialised Adult Incontinence nappies

Yes thats a good idea.. Nappy rash is an absolute crippler, i think all parents should get to experience the pain of nappy rash.. that way they would understand why their kids screams so much lol. Best advice is to change regularly, never let urine stay on your skin too long, wash your diaper region thourghily in between wearing and have a break away from nappys regularly. Unless your a complete masochist.. then be my guest - red raw sore overwhelming pain can be yours. BUT try explaining that at the doctors lol

Well you email the owner first of all and see what the hold up may be or what he has planned for the next month. If you dont get a satisfactory reply.. just cancel your membership. Vote with your feet. If too many people leave, they will respond and react to keep their site alive. The worst thing you can do is just sit there and take it without saying anything. as i guarentee the guy in charge with think everything is okay as it is and carry on running the site that way. Most of the sites have members only boards where you can talk directly to either the owner or someone from admin.. use it and get something sorted.

Dont forget to make it a special occasion. 

Lie back, relax, suckle on your favourite dummy, and maybe take a warm bottle of milk or juice, cuddle your favourite teddy and take your time to get into the right head space before you tape yourself in with cream and powder

Make the most of it little one. Enjoy.

Well that depends on how often you would use them and how many pictures you would gain from seeing them, or how many video you would download. Overall.. Id always say yes.. $20 a month isnt a large amount for the amount of trouble the guys get through to bring you the pictures in what is an undersourced market. Most adult sites buy content from photographers and resell it, but almost all of the AB paysites I know make their own content and that all takes time and more importantly money.

Well that varies from site to site, and the preview sections will usually tell you whats inside. Most of the time you get regualr updates ( usually either weekly or bi-weekly ) and they tend to be on a continuous theme. Have a check on my gallery I have free previews and direct links to almost all the major sites, so you can see exactly what sort of images you will expect to see

In the AB industry.. I dont know of a single site that cheats its users. All autobilling is usually handled by a third ( independant ) party like verotels ticket club system, so when you say stop.. they stop - it has nothing to do with the site owner themselves, so you are safe that way

mmm.. that depends entirely on what you suggest.. and wether they feel is a good and practical idea. Some peoples requests can be unrealistic, too expensive, too niche or even down right illegal... so yes they will listen - but may not be able to respond. On all the good sites, they will usually tell you why they wont do something.

Have a quick look in the weblinks section of this site, you will see a few sites and Ive listed the most common ones all on the one page

That depends on the ones you call, all sites have to legally tell you how much the call will cost so there should be no nasty suprises. in the UK an average recorded line costs between £1.50 to £1 a minute with an average story times to last up to 15 mins..or as long as you do ;) But make sure you keep this sort of thing under control. Watch how much time you spend on the line and call responsibly. No calling when your drunk :) Some lines are available as low as 60p a minute these days. In the USA it works a little different with you buying chunks of time with a credit card say in 10 - 15 - 30 minute block with either 1 or 2 hostesses so you dont get any suprises at the end of the month as you know exactly how much youve spent

I doubt that a lot, these ladies have heard it all before and Im sure your fantasies aren't that unusal in the bigger sense of the word. It is incredibly comforting knowing you can pick up the phone and there on the other end of the line will be someone who understands you and your desires and you dont have to feel guilt or shame in expressing what you feel.

Well it will be charged to your phonebill.. or if you are in the USA they tend to take a credit card payment instead. The names of these companies are usually discreet but if you want to remove all tell tale signs from a phonebill you can have the charge sent to your mobile phone number instead by reverse SMS.. like entering a competition on the telly.

Start a specific AB identity off for all your correspondance, a free email service where you dont have to give your full details like hotmail, try to choose a name which reflects you and what you are searching for.. choose wisely and dont be afraid to change your profile whenever you wish. My name -Care4baby - was in retrospect a bad choice.. most people think Im a mummy or a very needy AB boy. which is why I tend to use Daddy Paul when Im online it saves on responding to too many.. "will you be my mummy?" questions. Some good advice is to Make this aspect of your life completely seperate from your real life. Never give out personal details, be careful what details that you give out. Over time people can start to piece together a clear picture of you from casual details you drop into conversation. So dont start mentioning things like things like family members, places you frequent, your place of employment until you know that you can trust a guy/girl. its quite easy for a determined man to piece a little of the information together if so desired. Not that im encouraging you to hide.... its just that you have to be careful with people that you learn to trust online, you dont truely know them until you meet them face to face, you just have to be careful. :

As for when the great day comes where you actually want to get to meet your carer face to face, the best thing I can advise is that you do is meet in a neutral location, somewhere public, in a town that YOU feel comfortable with and know well. That way if anything "god forbid" should go wrong you can get away safely and not feel trapped. Make sure someone knows where you are at all times, leave contact details and the contacting details of the person you are meeting with someone who is aware of the meeting and its purpose, so that should anything go wrong the proper authorities can be informed. A wise move is to make sure that person has photographs of both of the participants aswell if possible . This is something that Unkle Paul here has done on many first meets for AB girls in the UK, they phone me at set times and If I dont hear from them and get the all-clear I investigate further... I dont want to scare anyone its not that bad - I mean to put it in context its the same thing as phoning your Daddy on a first date and being home by midnight :) If your potential partner doesnt agree to something like this then you have to doubt their motives. This sounds overly dramatic but its a tip thats been picked up from the BDSM scene where people are meeting to cause consensual pain or physical entrapment so the risks are higher. Not so relevant for the AB scene, but Ive found that girls are reassured knowing that someone who understands is watching over them and they feel safer knowing that the other party is being watched themselves. Its sounds worse than it actually is, you just have to be Smart! Common sense rules the day little one and as long as you keep your head screwed on then things will be fine

Getting to know someone through phone conversations and time spent on Cam is very advisable before you meet.You will instantly know that they are at the very least the actual sex they seeme online. Sooo many times you find guys who want to pretend to be girls online because they cant express it in real life and so Sam becomes Samantha online. The 6ft macho builder is a 5' sweet AB girl when he comes online. Now theres nothing wrong with pretending to be something you fantasise about online - I'm sure thats what the scientists had planned for its use all along anyway. as long as you let people know that that is who you are and dont string them along. At this stage a lot of the pretenders will drop away.. so if youve been talking to a potential little girl for 6 months but she wont call you on the phone then your going to have to wonder how serious this really is? Now there are many reasons why someone wouldnt want to move a relationship into the real physical realm and not all of them are bad.. but the most common ones which are big problems is... They arent who they say they are.. maybe its a guy all along? maybe they lied about their height and weight etc and are ashamed that they have lied and betrayed you and so cant reveal the truth to you Real life gets in the way.. Lots of guys want to be Daddies and lots of women want to be girls but the realities of life like a job or family or living with a housemate or previous or currently relationships can get in the way. Unfortunatly as time goes on you'll find that the fantasy will always stay that way as they cannot allow themselves to release from that situation or that past and you are onto a heartbreaking loss. Distance stops you.. Why oh why.. do you find the girl of your dreams but she lives in Nebraska... or China.. or Australia If only you could get to each other... Long distance relationships rarely work and the heartache it causes as the relationship builds but is ultimatly unfufilled is heart breaking.. and yes I have experienced it first hand. The situation is made worse by the power of the internet and the ease of communication it leads to a powerful intense romance which is ultimatly etherial and unsubstanciating. Be so so so very careful when you start a long distance relationship with the potential partner of your dreams as it can lead to some very lonely times as what you seek is just out of your grasp.

I wish I could, these relationships are based so heavily on trust and open honest communication that finding your ideal partner online is quite rare. Unfortunatly there is no Little Girls R Us places. I try my best to introduce people where I can but that is of limited use. What I have tried to do on this site is allow a free space where everyone can place a "advert" on the messageboard and I know that some relationships have started from those, but again, there is no magic wand. Im sorry.

Not “super” busy, but I do have a lot going on in my life which means im not as free to post as often as I would wish. 

But really Im trying to be quite selective about the pictures I post in this blog.  A lot of ageplay images on tumblr are reposted nappy site pictures or are highly sexual BDSM images ( which I enjoy - naturally )

Without sounding precocious ( and failing ) I want to try to steer my blog away from that. I like the pictures I blog to have a wider variety and reflect the fuller gentler aspects of play, the mental and emotional space rather than the purely the physical. Those pictures are much harder to come by. 

But… I will try harder.

Here is the link to the full picture I posted a few months ago. 
http://care4baby.tumblr.com/post/10405718351/selfportrait 

well lets take last night as an example, i had two of my girls staying up and for most of the night they had been big girls, we were catching up as Id been away working all weekend. Bedtime came so i sent the girls upstairs to get their pyjamas and bedtime nappy. After I had got them changed together, we had a cuddle on the sofa and planned today before I took them both to bed and read them a bedtime story and kissed them both goodnight and tucked them into sleep. Today Ive changed them back into big girl panties and we have sent one of the girls off to work and the other will be coming around town with me.

Yes, any genuine question will get an honest and open answer. Silly nonsense and spam will be ignored. Try me, I might be able to help.

Hi, My name is Daddy Paul, I am 38 from Wolverhampton in the UK and this site has been running for 14 years in one form or another, It started as a place to show my diaper anime pictures and write about Adult baby play with the girls I have looked after, but since then its grown into this wider range of topics related to AB and ageplay that you see before you. Enjoy.

Ive thought about this for a few years now and getting to know the AB scene I quickly discovered that very very few people who surf for AB / Sissy / LG are actually "active" What I mean is that only a very small percentage actually want to move the fantasy of AB play from therir minds into actually looking to make contact. or in reality can have the ability to be contacted and even fewer are the reality of any form of relationship Ill justify that belief with some actual figures... C4B has had over the last calander year 99,153,896 hits.. which in reality relates to 343,000 individual unique visitors to the site.. which equates to about 1000-1300 unique visitors a month or roughly 130 new people a day or 8491 in the databse.. thats not all active at once mind you. and of that... the site has an average of only a mere 10 people who actually join a day. Thats a tiny percentage Now.. remember C4B is NOT primarily a dating site... ( although I am toying with making a care4baby dating site.. free of course). The members list is exactly that - a list of the people who are interested enough to register that and dig deeper into the site and all the information it offers and the community it supports. These people have not declared themselves wanting to be contacted or available to take the steps into making this real for them BUT Almost 1/3 of the forum dedicated as a place for people who want to reach out and make contact but the clear fact here is that people who are serious about the possibilty of wanting to play make sure they fill as much info in their profile as possible and get active and post a wanted ad or hang out in the chatroom. And the sad fact is that that number is very low indeed and widely spread all over the surface of the globe and so it means making a direct match up with you somewhere close is rare. So bearing in mind that low joining rate already.... Forcing people to put something personal and revealing ( in their minds ) into the boxes as the time of login to try and get a more complete view of them as individuals - when they arent ready to make that step voluntarily would stop a large percentage from registering and ineffect exclude them from the site. The reality is I already get soo many false email addresses because - and you have to keep this at the forefront of your mind - that for individuals this is a very secret fetish for them an undisclosed or unexplored avenue of private sexual thought and the last thing they want is to fear discovery or to be outed by giving away any personal information at all. So really what you need to bear in mind is that if they havent filled in their most basic of details and arent actually active within the site it is a dead cert that they dont want to be contacted and they definatly arent worth chasing, so scouring the memberlist looking for maybe a female that lives near you is relatively pointless. The members list isnt a wasted opportunity but a window to show you how deep this fetish goes in so many peoples pysche.. even if they arent as fully commited as you or I

This is a consistantly reoccuring problem, I have deleted artwork from the gallery many many times and told the guys off who uploaded it and even banned them when they had the cheek to claim it was their own and I found out otherwise... but as soon as you slap one guy down another one comes around. I have spoken to some of the creators of these artworks before and some of them dont actually mind there artwork on the site and some do and so I only remove artwork from the site when I am asked to directly by the person who has produced it. Some of the site owners who run these little homepages with their artwork have had to accept the fact that once you place an image online unless you go through great steps to protect that item it WILL be lifted and shared. - if its any good. These guys who upload on all the other sites including mine dont fully understand the situation and well meaningly want to share the artwork that they have "discovered" for others. See they dont feel they are doing any harm.. because theres no financial side to the artwork and so its not like piracy My own work gets ripped off reguarly.. but I really dont care.. im realistic about how the net works and try to embrace it rather than fight it. Just like the music indistry and the movie guys are having to do. So all i do is add my webaddress to each image I make so that in the hope that when they are posted at some other site that they turn into mini adverts for my site. That doesnt always happen as the guys sometimes just cut the logo out but its all i can really do, i dont want to go around hassling people about them using my image.. im just pleased that people think its good enough. Loads of guys use my pasties on there phonesex lines or toplists or paysites, I dont care.. more power to them. All I need is an email from the guy who made the artwork and objects to its presence and I will remove it.. simple - its always been that way. Ive never quibbled or queried.. they just name the images.. show me its there.. I delete.. no problem.. no hassle. Im getting sick of deleting pictures that people object to other people putting on there.. but what can I do other than to close down the space for the people who DO want their artwork there? This will make them suffer. The guys will just post the pictures in another section or on another board.. you cannot win this fight. Im running out of ideas on this... from now on.. If I get a request from an artist to not allow anyone to post his artwork I will place his name on a banned list and write it clearly on description of that forum so people know not to upload that particular artists work.. But even that I cant see even that working.. Most of these guys have no idea who made the original image and dont read anything about what they can and cant do. But Ill get my moderators to watch that section and if anything new gets dropped in and its from that particular artist then remove it.

Well most Nannys reputations spread on word of mouth, but I have opened a review section and Id like to invite anyone who has had a good or bad experience with a nanny to tell the world about it, so either the good nanny can be rewarded so she sees more little boys, or if the service you had wasnt so great, you can stop anyone being parted from their cash again. The more information we have about the Nanny.. the more we all benefit

Well thats a grey area.. under British Law it is interpreted as Prositution even though there is no sexual contact - but in saying that I have never heard of an AB Nanny charged with this offence. The main think that the police will do is shut a nursery down is if it offers overnight stays, they have decided that this falls under the same laws as running a B&B and therefore the owner of said establishment should hold all relevant qualification and health and safety licenses.. which of course they dont. Picky isnt it! Some nannys have gone down that whole route to legitimise their own enterprises and actually taken these steps, but that is very very rare.

In 99.9% of case - NO WAY.. your a baby boy.. you dont have sexual desires.. Some Nannies may help you relieve yourself. Or just watch you play in your own nappy. But this is something you should discuss with the nanny before you begin.. certainly not during the play. if you want to *****... go to a prostitute. A Nanny or Mommy is there to pamper you, care for you and discipline or dominate you.

That depends on the Nanny, most will allow you to wet as that is easy to clear up, but again check before you start just to confirm, nothing will sour your relationship with your Nanny and therefore spoil your trip than overstepping this boundary. Almost all of the time, the Nanny will tell you this before you begin

True specialised Nanny-only ladies are relatively rare. I list as many of them as I can in my Weblinks section ( at time of writing I have almost 30 or so - predominantly in the UK ) So click on that in the menu and youll have the list of the major ones Ive found.

Well that depends from person to person but as an average you can expect to pay about £100-£140 for a session, which can last anything from 1hr up to all afternoon. Overnight stays are sometimes available and most AB boys agree that this is really the only way to visit a Nanny, as you get to wear for extended periods of time, wet and be changed and sleep overnight and be woken and changed again next morning. The average price of a sleep over can be anywhere up from £200. It is vital you remember that almost all Nannys are non sexual services, they are not prostitutes. So you are not paying for and will in 99.9% of cases NOT get sexual gratification.

Well that depends what you ask for, every AB boy is an individual, and so what the Nanny will do is very dependant on what you ask for... remember this is your time so actually expressing what you want is the most important thing you can do before you start to play. As a rule of thumb, you will be dressed, diapered, washed, possibly fed, encouraged to wet and then changed. Some put you down for a nap or put you to bed with a story if you stay over-night. It really is as wide as a persons desires. Most dissatisfied clients I've ever talked to never actually told the Nanny what he expected.. and therefore he never got it. They only have themselves to blame - Nannys arent mind readers Y`Know!!!